The Second Dimension
The Choices We Make
If the first dimension is simply a singular point of possibility, then the second dimension is the place and space in which a person actually makes a choice. This could a very specific choice (Do I want A or B?) or a more general choice (Will I choose to be positively focused or negatively focused?) There are two dimensions, two ways to see the world, which can be retold using this Parable of Two Villages:
A traveler came upon an old farmer hoeing in his field beside the road. Eager to rest his feet, the wanderer hailed the countryman, who seemed happy enough to straighten his back and talk for a moment.
“What sort of people live in the next town?” asked the stranger.
“What were the people like where you’ve come from?” Replied the farmer, answering the question with another question.
“They were a bad lot. Troublemakers all, and lazy too. The most selfish people in the world, and not a one of them to be trusted. I’m happy to be leaving the scoundrels.”
“Is that so?” Replied the farmer. “Well, I’m afraid that you’ll find the same sort in the next town.”
Disappointed, the traveler trudged on his way, and the farmer returned to his work.
Some time later, another stranger, coming from the same direction, hailed the farmer, and they stopped to talk. “What sort of people live in the next town?” he asked.
“What were the people like where you’ve come from?” asked the farmer once again.
“They were the best people in the world. Hard working, honest, and friendly. I’m sorry to be leaving them.”
“Fear not,” said the farmer. “You’ll find the same sort in the next town.”
The moral of the story is that you get what you choose to see.
One way to take two dimensions, and collapse them down into one for yourself, is to stop seeing the world as positive and negative. Rather start seeing every interactions as an opportunity to learn and grow and get to know more about yourself and others.
Challenge of the Day: When you are experiencing what you may call “a negative event,” tell yourself, in a light-hearted tone: Well at least I know I don’t want that experience again.
Then practice reframing the experience: (For more information click here)
- Go into meditation (traditionally) or into “the zone” during a workout or while performing a favorite hobby.
- Allow yourself the feel the negative emotion – tell it thank you, I’ve seen the lesson you came to teach me, now you can go.
- Visualize deleting the experience/emotion you did have and putting in the experience/emotion you wish you would have had instead.
- Replay the new film footage you’ve created in your imagination over and over again until you feel better.
Another helpful chart idea when it comes to reprograming how you see situations ^