This week’s topic? Compartmentalization – what is it ,and how to do it?
Compartmentalization is for those who wish to experience multiple realities and roles, but have a hard time separating them, and therefore, give up opportunities or experiences to do so. And sometimes society shames people for some of the experience and opportunities they wish to experience. In order to being experimenting with compartmentalization, you must clean up and let go of the idea that you simply one person playing one role. Then just as people who move into a new home proceed, you also need to begin to see each new role, each new room’s purpose and then set up that room and role for that purpose. In some cases we do this naturally in our physical spaces, but for some reason we may have a hard time doing so mentally—imaginatively. So take some time each day to plan the following steps:
1. Ask yourself in the morning, what experiences and opportunities would I like to have today?
2. Electronically, or on paper, plan a solid, yet flexible schedule knowing that some days will go exactly as planned, while most of the time, there will be variations. Be open and okay with the variations.
3. Visualize being an actor for each role and experience you want to experience. Make sure you have the costume and the mindset that goes with that opportunity or experience. For example we often naturally do this physically with clothes. When we go to work, we dress up. Then we may hit the gym and put on our work out clothes, then we shower and go home where we put on more comfortable clothing. During each experience practice being only that role. Leave all other roles in their own mental rooms.
4. Then, as you go throughout your day and experience each opposite be awake and aware. As you are experiencing each role ask yourself:
a. Do I enjoy this experience? Does it give more energy and joy or make me clam and content? Or am I not liking this experience. Is it making me tired and depressed or angry and agitated? Then, be honest with the answer you give yourself.
b. Are my actives and roles balanced? There may be opportunities and actives we enjoy, but if we spend too much time doing them, other things in our life could become out of balance. We may enjoy playing video games or working or exercising or
participating in other recreational activities, but if we do them too long, our lives, and the lives of those around us can become out of balance, which leads me to the next
question you should ask yourself:
c. Is this experience making me, and others around me, more or less functional?
Another way to look at it is does this activity also bring others around me more energy and joy or make them more clam and content, or does it make them agitated? Every decision and action we take doesn’t just effect our lives, but it effects the lives of all around us. And their happiness and ability to be functional is just as important as our own.
5. At the end of each day, take time to reflect.
Visualize how your day went. Honestly reflect and think about each answer you gave yourself. Then decide to keep the opportunities, experience you enjoyed, and delete or reprogram the ones you did not.
Peace and blessings!